Friday, January 7, 2011

Is it bad that I dont care?

I have been thinking a lot about how I feel about people, what they say, how they are doing, what they are up to..and so on. Well for the most part I am a caring person. Really I am! However there is a person out there that I really could care less about. I dont care about anything that they tell me. I actually get so annoyed and bothered by them. I try really hard to be nice to them, to stroke their ego, laugh at their jokes, and more. I do this thinking that it will help me be ok with them, ok that they are in my life , ok that they are among the living. But it is not helping me accept that at all. I take pride in the fact that I am a good person, I am a good friend, a good mother and daughter. But not being able to be any of that to this person and accept them for who they are is hard for me. I feel like a bad person because of the thoughts and feelings I have about this person. I know that I have faults, I know that some people may not like me either and that's their prerogative even though that bothers me a little bit too. I will not get into why, another post for another day.
I hope I am making sense. Sorry if you do not like this post. I will try to be more happy in the next one.

What are some ideas that you have that helps you in this situation?


  1. Totally understandable. I'd say just ignore the person, but with who you are talking about, it sure makes that difficult, eh?
    You are a great person, and I think you are a lot nicer than most of us would be.

  2. You are anything but bad! You're soooo much better than I would be, and totally a caring person!

  3. If they are family you have to deal. If they are just people you don't click with in anyway you don't have to like them. Just be nice, and honest. Do you currently have a false relationship with them? Do they think they are buddy's? Then have an explanatory conversation. If not, then it is okay to leave them. :)

    My advice. I had a girl in college I hated, but my roomie loved her. I couldn't stand her at all. This is the one time I really didn't like a person.

  4. but i don't really know your situation. so yeah.

  5. There's no such thing as getting along with everyone. It matters HOW you treat someone, though. I think Heavenly Father expects us to be kind when are in contact with others, weather we like them or not. And I do not believe you're a bad person for not liking someone.

    I say keep being nice, and limit yourself to being around that person. Your feelings for that person probably will never change, but you can be in control of how YOU treat them.

    It's tough!! I know how you feel.

  6. You have feelings that are constantly manipulated by this person in one way or another so it is quite understandable that you want nothing to do with this person, but one of many things about you Rebekah is that you are a genuinely incredably nice and patient when others would break.

    I love you and do not think any less of you for having these feelings and greatly look up to you for your ability to deal with this pebble in your shoe!


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